How to move from the dating app to texting.
Moving off the app is a small step, and it works best when you give a reason and leave room for no.
Plenty of people prefer to stay on the app until they have met. That is a reasonable safety choice, not a rejection.
When to suggest it
After a real conversation, ideally around the point you are arranging to meet. Asking in the first three messages feels like a jump.
What you can say
- 1Tie the ask to a practical reason, like sorting out plans.
- 2Offer the option and let them choose.
- 3If they prefer the app, say that is fine and carry on there.
Example messages
Easier to sort Thursday over text — want to swap numbers? Happy to stay here too.
I'm terrible at checking this app. Number, or shall I set a reminder to be better?
Totally fine to stay here until we've met — I'd rather you were comfortable.
What to avoid
- ✕Asking repeatedly after a no.
- ✕Implying they are being difficult for preferring the app.
When to leave the conversation alone
If someone says they would rather stay on the app, that is the answer. Ask once, accept it, and keep the conversation going where they are comfortable.
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